Are Mental Orgasms Possible? Exploring the Mental Orgasm and the submissive...
Humans are born with hardware and software. That hardware might be considered to be the physical body and the 'direct' physical triggers and responses that are built into it. These can be the 'automatic' responses such as the rhythmic contraction of muscles used to breathe and pump blood through the heart, the blinking of eyes to keep them moist and a myriad of other maintenance tasks that the body performs continuously. The hardware is also governed by the limitations of its creation, or, it has finite dimensions due to the nature of the materials used to make it. The software might be considered to be the mental programming platform within the brain itself. It appears that we are born with an informational base. This base is expanded by 'all' of the informational input that we receive, this includes information we may gather prior to actual birth while still being carried inside the womb. The existence of this base as an actual structure becomes evident by the individual's 'innate' ability to evaluate information and respond or make choices based on that evaluation. An example of this is when a newborn infant learns that through making sound they receive attention. Most infants evaluate this response as 'positive' and incorporate that information into their software as a usage tool. The determination of 'positive or negative' appears to be part of the base software program and not 'imposed' or learned by environment or socialization after birth. In many ways BDSM explores the 'way' hardware and software work and interact together. Exploring the underlying preexistent built in response codes or informational bases is at the very heart of the relationships between a Dominant and a submissive. Some of the information within this base appears to be an accumulation of species survival encoding, things we as a species have learned and integrated in our effort to continue to exist. We appear to 'pass' this information in our genetic code or in some manner encourage it to exist intact as part of the necessary 'equipment' built into a new life. The strength and intensity of this encoded information does appear to vary from one bloodline to another and within that bloodline itself when certain members of a family appear to get a 'stronger mix' than others. This software contributes to the automatic response structures of the individual. Reactions that the person does not consciously think about. A Dominant often taps into the undersurface of a sub missives mind, that area where these identical responses are held. This is an area where a submissive will react in situations where they perceive an element of 'threat'. The element of 'threat' or 'risk' often triggers them past their thought directed voluntary response chain into the area of innate responses. In many ways the 'desire' or 'need' to respond in a submissive fashion is housed in these responses. The innate 'software' of the submissive tells them that this manner of response and behavior is correct or most liable to lead to success or even more basically survival. The more often that a submissive is 'triggered' into this area the stronger their connection with these responses will become. They are not developing new responses but using ancient ones that they already possess. A Dominant does not teach a submissive how to be submissive. A Dominant may encourage or condition preexisting responses, aiding a submissive in embracing these responses within themselves. In general you condition responses by positive reinforcement (compliments or approval) and discipline by negative reinforcement (removal of approval). A submissive knows 'how' to do everything. Reaching that information beyond all the current societal and environmental blockades is often difficult and painstaking. A Dominant has the ability through 'expression of presence' to trigger a submissive beyond or through that barrier. On each penetration the submissive will be able to connect more strongly with their underlying self. An example of this type of conditioning training is when a 'brand new submissive' is told simply to 'present' and they instinctively alter their body to an open stance of some kind. A Dominant 'reading' this information is given clues as to what type of information is possible within that submissive. An extension of the simple 'present' may be a unique enormously erotic movement of designed seductive presentation by that submissive after many sessions and experiences of positive encouragement. The Dominant simply encourages the submissive to go into their responses further. If that submissive naturally extends their arms over their head when lying down, the Dominant expresses approval of this reaction and possibly suggests a 'furthering' of the movement such as in the crossing of the sub missives wrists. This is a subtle and slow process. Attempts to force a submissive into responses not inherent within them will produce lack of comfort and a display which is inferior. Follow or Direct the clues so presented. A Dominant often has an 'instinctive' or 'innate' understanding of what they are viewing (part of their software informational base)! Ahh, back to the topic at hand... The mental orgasm. Many sub missives have the built in capacity to orgasm through mental command. To access this reaction the Dominant needs to watch and follow the signs of intense erotic arousal within the sub missives natural responses. When the submissive is in a highly aroused state the Dominant needs to encourage the submissive in identifying where they are in their mind. This command tells the submissive to 'mark' the area. To some extent when the Dominant later tells that submissive to 'find' that place - the mind of the submissive searches (much like a computer) to obey the command. Locating the area of physical orgasmic control is the first step. Developing the further conditioned response of triggering on command is done through repeated access of the area to strength the connections. It is important to understand that 'when' a submissive orgasms on command that it is not purely a physical release of orgasmic material, their entire body will respond, nerve endings reacting along the entire skin surface and internally as well. The experience can be so intense and 'primal' that it can be frightening for the submissive at first. In some ways it is a letting go of the full potential. The mind orgasms as well as the body. It is also important to remember that a submissive who is mentally triggered into orgasm may continue to orgasm for hours, their body cycling up and down as the button is pushed over and over inside their mind. This can become painful and even dangerous so it is important for the Dominant to remember to tell the submissive to stop. Many submissive can bond to the command presence of their Dominant so strongly that achieving the ability to orgasm on command becomes simply part of the daily fabric of their lives. In some ways they present to their Dominant 'access' to this most intimate of pleasures by coupling the trigger to the command. This command can be utilized when the Dominant and submissive are not physically together and may be managing part of their relationship at a distance (via phone) and allow both to enjoy a direct/indirect powerful connection which separation does not inhibit. It can also serve to reinforce the bonding within the relationship. Source: http://www.steel-door.com/mental_conditioning.htm The Seven Types of Female Orgasms : 'Liberated Orgasm: The Orgasmic Revolution' by Herbert Otto from his book Published by Liberating Creative Inc. THE WOMAN'S BASIC SEVEN Introduction Every woman is potentially capable of having seven basic types of orgasms. In addition to the basic seven, women are capable of combinations of the basic seven, called the fusion orgasm and the zone orgasm (described in Chapter 6, pp. 107-110). The woman's basic seven will be discussed in detail in this and the next chapter. It will be recalled that in the course of the Orgasm Spectrum Research Project, a total of 335 participants filled out a copy of the Orgasmic Range Survey. This primary group consisted of 205 women and 130 men. Findings from this relatively youthful group, with an above-average educational background, are included in this and the next two chapters. These basic seven climaxes available to women have unique and distinct characteristics for the hetero-orgasmic person. This basic spectrum of the female climax includes: 1) the clitoral orgasm, 2) the vaginal/cervical orgasm, 3) the breast orgasm, 4) the mouth orgasm, 5) the G-spot orgasm, 6) the anal orgasm, and 7) the mental orgasm. Before taking a closer look at the basic seven, some additional important facts known about female orgasms will be reviewed. (In this and all subsequent chapters, the terms "orgasm" and "climax" are used interchangeably.) ORGASMS, MULTIPLE ORGASMS AND ORGASM VARIANTS Women were not believed capable of experiencing orgasm until some time after the turn of the twentieth century. Concurring in this mistaken belief were well-known medical authorities. Middle-class women were instructed to do their "marital or wifely duties" and were told that "decent" and "proper" women derived no pleasure from sex. Reproductive sex for the creation of children was the rule. Sex was the man's prerogative and he had sex with a woman for his own enjoyment. While this cluster of cultural/theological biases still persists in numerous fundamental faiths and various nations, it is now generally accepted that both genders are capable of enjoying and experiencing sex and the orgasm. Not only are women capable of being orgasmic, many women are also capable of having multiple orgasms, i.e. several climaxes in quick succession. Some have them whenever they wish, and without difficulty. Others have them only under certain circumstances being in the right mood, being with the right partner, being in the optimal position for climax, being in the right environment, etc. While the vast majority of women are potentially capable of multiple orgasms, many choose not to, do not, or cannot, for various reasons actualize this potential. Women who do have multiple orgasms may experience only vaginal and anal contractions, or they may experience a more major climax involving contractions of various parts of the body which may last for a minute or longer. They may also have a series of minor orgasms which are experienced as less intense and may result in several minor, or to them non-observable muscular contractions. Some climaxes may also succeed each other quite swiftly, with very brief delay between orgasms. They are then known as a continuous orgasm, or as sequential orgasms. Multiple orgasms can include a mix of climaxes with varying intensities. Little is as yet known about the capacity for multiple orgasms vis-à-vis most of the Basic Seven. Most, but not all women, during their orgasms, experience three to fifteen muscular contractions which occur less than one second apart. Two major types of vaginal contractions occur during the female orgasm. One contraction involves the outer third of the vaginal muscles. A deeper type of contraction involves the muscles of the uterus and the deep musculature of the pelvis and anus. While some women are unaware that these contractions take place, they do exist and can be measured. The whole body orgasm must also be mentioned. It is reported to involve the whole body or numerous body parts, and was mentioned by a number of women participants throughout the duration of this study. The whole body orgasm can take place in a variety of contexts. During the eighties, four women who were disciples of the mystic guru Bhagwan Sbree Rajneesh talked to me about their whole body orgasms. They reported having had this type of climax while dancing before the guru in Poona, India. On subsequently attending a gathering of his disciples in the U. S., I found another half dozen women who were aware of this phenomenon. They reported that friends had told them of having experienced this particular type of climax. This type of whole body orgasm appears to represent a melding of spiritual and sexual ecstasy. In the spring of 1996, I met a successful young businessman who had also been to Poona as an attendant to Bhagwan. He was aware that I was doing research on the human climax and volunteered that he had experienced a "dancing orgasm." It was very similar to those described by the women. This seems to indicate that men are also capable of the type of whole body orgasm which takes place in a spiritual context. More research about the whole body orgasm is needed. As previously noted, there is some dispute about a woman's capacity to abort, or stop, the orgasm once it is in mid-course or beyond. My observation has been that some women can and some cannot stop their orgasms. There are numerous women who can only climax through masturbation. Sexologist Joseph LoPiccolo makes a telling point when discussing those women who are orgasmic during masturbation but not with their partners. He states that in many cases, the old maxim "There are no frigid women, only clumsy men is true if the woman is normally responsive but the male is an inept lover. He adds: "The principle of mutual responsibility, however, points out that such a woman has failed to train her husband to be an effective lover for her" (1) LoPiccolo suggests that a revision of the old maxim be made so that it will read: "There are both frigid women and clumsy men, and they are usually married to each other." By the same token, a number of sexologists, Helen Singer Kaplan among others, believe that for a sizable group of women, sexual responsiveness without orgasm may be normal. I disagree this is not a "normal" phenomenon. Although fairly rare, some women suffer from a condition known as premature orgasm." Such orgasms occur shortly after intromission of the penis into the vagina and usually are not very intense. Anxiety, lack of self-confidence or sexual self-esteem are some of the factors which may contribute to this condition, which is not without its similarities to premature ejaculation in a man. The physician and sexologist Avodah Offit refers to what she calls "the incomplete orgasm." (2) Such an orgasm may begin, then stop and fade away before total release is achieved. Finally there, is "orgasmic anesthesia," a state characterized by some signs of an orgasm (such as vaginal contractions), but without pleasurable or erotic sensations. How many women suffer from these latter orgasmic variants is unknown. While conducting interviews for this study, a number of sexually sophisticated women mentioned that if they had several orgasms during an encounter with a partner, these climaxes successively increased in strength. I would agree with sexologist Mary Jan Sherfey's conclusion that numerous women fail to be satisfied by one strong orgasm. (3) As women's fear of their own sexuality decreases, it can be expected that a growing number of women will experience a substantial increase in the intensity of each successive climax. I call this the accelerated orgasmic intensity process It appears to be exclusively restricted to the female of the species. Some women need several orgasms to obtain a feeling of satisfaction, relaxation and lovingness, or to achieve an orgasm with deep contractions. Others need a specific series of climaxes to achieve an optimal feeling of fulfillment. For example, one woman reported that "to really feel fulfilled," she would like a clitoral, a vaginal and an anal orgasm in the course of an evening with her lover
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