Date vs. Non-Date

What is a Date?

A date is usually made days or weeks in advance. Women dislike spontaneous dates. Men do not.

The male almost always makes the date.

He is expected to drive his car to her home, pick her up and take her where he is further expected to spend money, often for dinner followed by a movie and maybe a late night dessert or drink.

The male usually pays all expenses on a date. The female usually never offers to share any expenses.

Most men believe the more they spend, the better impression they make and the quicker they will get whatever they want.

Some women on a tight budget date to eat.

Both parties have different expectations on a date that are not communicated to the other.

Both parties on a date try to make the best possible impression, never disclosing hidden agendas, serious character defects or past behaviours that would make an unfavorable impression.

Each believes they will get to know the other by what is discussed. Topics of conversation are carefully chosen (albeit subconsciously) to promote non-argumentative, agreeable conversation.

What is a Non-Date?

A non-date is often spontaneous and never made more than several days in advance.

Modern women, who have successfully erased mother's tapes, can ask men on a non-date.

Contrived, forced and condescending conversation is unnecessary on non-dates.

Both parties usually drive their own cars on non-dates.

Expenses are often willingly shared on non-dates.

Initial non-dates are usually for less than an hour. Thus, both parties can quickly and politely end a non-date if things are not working out or can extend it if they are.

Dinner at Nobles is a date.
Meeting for hot dogs at the Exxon Station is a non-date.
A date is called a car-date.
A non-date is called a non-date or a meeting.

Pain and misery are having to hang in there on a date for 5 hours when you know in 5 minutes it's a bummer.

More later if you're interested: Non-date Advantages, Some Do's, Don'ts and How To's.