Theory of Segmented Sexualization TOSS bz

Theory of Segmented Sexualization TOSS

I'm writing this from a man's perspective, but the message is the same for women if you like.

Remember all the good times you've ever had and all the people you've ever had romance with? Chances are there wasn't just one person and a lot of great times but a lot of great people and a lot of great times. If so, read on.

The best I've ever had (excluding sex for now) all had different interests:

One liked the opera, one liked country music
One was a writer, one a waitress
One liked the symphony, one liked karaoke
One liked to drink, another was president of MADD
One was a lawyer, one was a jailbird
One had children, one adopted stray ferrel cats
One's favorite thing to do in the kitchen was cook,
Another's, make reservations
One was a seamstress, another a songstress etc.

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Now, think of the top 5 things you enjoy most with the opposite sex (Again, exclude sex and romance for now).

Let's say they are:

1. Opera and symphony
2. Jogging and tennis
3. Writing poetry and prayers
4. Shagging and samba
5. Dining out at fine and not-so-fine restaurants (e.g. McDonald's)

Chances are no women you'll ever find anywhere can even come close to wanting to enjoy all, or even a couple of your "top 5". And, you can't find any woman anywhere you'd like to try enjoying all five with - can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear!

So if this makes sense so far, if you're single, not in a committed relationship and open to considering some new ideas for a more fulfilling and contented single life, please read on.........

No one woman anywhere anytime can satisfy all your "top 5" interests - ever! Don't even think of trying to invite your tennis partner to the symphony. Don't even think of talking about Shakespeare when you're shagging.

Have a symphony woman, a running buddy, an opera woman, a tennis partner and a Book Club partner. But don't have sex with any of these Friend-Friends. Why? Because you'll loose good friends and you won't enjoy any of the "top 5" as much with them after the line's been crossed. Keep your friends for the "top 5" strictly Friend-Friends (no sex, no romance).

Finally, now for sex. Remember the best you've ever had?

Ask men, and chances are many will say they can't even remember her name:

"I think it was on a business trip in a motel in Norfolk or was it Paris. I really can't remember. Whomever or wherever, she wouldn't have liked the opera or anything else I liked except sex. It was the best sheet-ripping night I've ever had".

Ask women, and most will say the best sex they've ever had was in a romantic relationship. Self-fulfilling prophecy? Many women want everyone to think they want and need only the "nice proper warm and fuzzy stuff" (birthday presents, culture, conversation, commitment, cuddle, dinner out, etc.). Not just sex without.

Now, if you (male or female) want world class sex, you can't get it with your Friend-Friends. And you probably can't get it in "classic" romantic relationships because the lust bloom usually dies so quickly that few, if any of us will ever enjoy really great sex for more than a few fleeting fortnights, if ever at all.

So for great sex over time, you'll have to find good discriminate FEATHER-Friends for sex only, friends neither you nor they will want to go to the opera Saturday night together. Take your Friend-Friends to the opera but NO sex or romance with them before or after.

Believe it or not, I've known some good women who think about sex like this too. They were brought up well and have been very successful in a broad range of endeavors from business to homemaking. No trailer trash in this group of very unique women I'm privileged to have known! Their most unusual qualities are they all have very high self esteem and confidence and lots of self-made class and style money can't buy. Great successful women no one would ever believe could be great in the sack too!

And many of their stories are like men's, "Was it Indianapolis or London?"

So, where's this going and what's a good TOSS in the course of single life?

Theory of Segmented Sexualization TOSS

If this makes sense and you want to add more chapters to your book of life, think
about the "Theory of Segmented Sexualization" TOSS:

You can give and get the most pleasure having a number of Friend-Friends
you enjoy doing different things together but without romance and sex.
You can give and get the most sexual pleasure over time having discriminate Feather-Friends you enjoy just sex with -- Nothing else, not even meeting for hotdogs at the Exxon Station!

I know a number of contented men and women who believe in and practice TOSS.

Maybe someday I can too!

The Street Doctor
2000

See also: What's A Better Way Than Looking For Mr. Right?
The "Theory Of Segmented Sexualization" Confirmed

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